I've had it about up to here with dozens of men kicked back on a NYC subway car while a bunch of women are standing up. And why is it usually a woman to offer her seat first to the pregnant or elderly? I can't tell you how many grown men I've seen sit right in their seat and not even bother to get up. And then you have the nerve to flirtatiously glance in my direction??? Just stop. Or what about men (close friends or relatives) who have a car and act like it's pulling teeth to give you a ride somewhere important just one time.
One of the biggest turnoffs to me is a man with no manners or respect. My mother never stood for it when it came to raising my little brother. There was never a question about his manly duties; take the trash out, open the door for your mother and sister, carry the luggage etc. And to this day he never complains either. There are some sisters out there who are really doing a disservice to the race by raising arrogant lazy selfish sons.
To the men who are constantly trying to become a serious part of my life: How about you start trying to help me out? Make my life a little bit sweeter and a lot less strenuous. At 114 pounds, I am so tired of lugging pounds and pounds of stuff around on my own. Why is it that it's always other women (and sometimes older women!) who are helping me out and not men? And why are men walking by and not offering to help a woman who is shoveling snow or carrying a heavy package? I have done so many moves on my own, only to wake up the next morning sore in my arms and back. I am not going to dinner with any man after a long day of lifting and pulling a bunch of things (in thirty degree weather) on my own. Period.
If you as a man know that I don't drive and that I'm constantly trekking somewhere in the bitter cold, maybe, just maybe it might occur to you that one way to my heart is by physically helping me. You all want to be made to feel like a man, but no one wants to act like a man. I mean, what is a man really good for nowadays? Show me your worth and be a man. I can't accept any less.
OOH boy, I hear you. I rarely look to men to be gentlemen beyong my husband and son. Sometimes men have offered to carry my bag, give me a ride or walk me to my door but I never take them up on it. I don't feel comfortable accepting help from strange men except opening a door. I've even haad a man offer to pay for my pizza when I ran out of change so they are out there. I think it depends on where you are. Big cities are full of self centered men that rarely consider anyone but themselves. Women everywhere are socialized to care about others so we always want to help. Don't lose hope though, there are some gentlemen left out there.
ReplyDeleteAnd you know what? You are SO right! The day after I posted this I put my foot in my mouth, because men were being chivalrous left and right! Some young brother on the subway actually let me go first on the ticket machine, even though he was on the line first. I guess the Universe told me, huh! :) There is definitely a lot of ugly behavior out there, but there are indeed many gentleman *sprinkled* in between too. Hope is still alive! lol
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