Something New

Okay, so I'm pretty sleepy right now, but I wanted to write this post for the longest...

I've unexpectedly started to become seriously attracted to men of other races!  This is really a shocker because I have always only looked at black men.  

Toronto, Canada

So I've basically started noticing Arab and Indian men - a LOT.  I first started noticing Arab guys while on my several trips to Toronto visiting the ex.  Toronto is like the metro-sexual multicultural capital of North America.  Just people from all over the world, but in a sleeker way than NYC.  Such an interesting city.  I wonder if Dubai is like that... and that's def on my list of places to visit.  

Anyway, in Toronto (yes, while strolling with my at the time boyfriend) I started noticing all these sexy 20 something Arab dudes.  I was like - wait a second, they're kinda hot!  The ones I noticed were very youthful in their demeanor.  Like "Americanized", educated with money, had good style, and just had a confidence about them, which was oh so sexy. There was even this cab driver my ex and I used to use to take me to and from the airport who was 26, Arab, and in grad school.  Let's just say I noticed him noticing me... and me being the friendly person I am, I wasn't rude or anything.  What's wrong with friendly conversation?  *wink*  Well, on more than one occasion the ex ever so slightly took note at how easily the Arab cabbie and I were conversing.  Then I noticed my ex would start getting serious and quiet, so I would back off and just minimize the chatter till my we reached our destination.  Looking back, I should have rubbed this all in my ex's face... I mean, why should I have EVER had to water myself down to satisfy his confidence???  Hey - he sure as heck turned out to not be concerned with being sensitive to me!  I will never do that again.  But that's another blog post that I'll write tomorrow maybe...  we live and we learn!

Bollywood Actor Shahid Kapoor

My attraction to Indian men evolved from my obsession with Bollywood movies. These films opened my eyes to the sexiness of these metro-sexual Indian men.  Truthfully, they could be from a range of countries.. India or Pakistan, who knows?   And yes, I know they are not the same place, but for the purposes of this blog, I am going to generically refer to them as Indian (I know, terrible, lol).  All of a sudden I started noticing them more and more as I walked through the streets of Manhattan.  There are some tall and HANDSOME professional 20 and 30 something Indian men... just clean cut in a sharp suit and strolling down the streets of Manhattan.

Then there was this good looking Indian guy who worked in the Subway restaurant across the street from my house.  He was always extra nice to me, I guess because I was in there so often.  At a certain point he was very subtly flirting with me.  Then when I would walk into the store he would flash me a smile and say hi.  I realized I had developed a slight crush on him and began looking forward to going into Subway.  Whether or not our families would accept the other, it's still fun to venture into that unfamiliar territory with a man of another race.  I saw a pic of Janet Jackson the other day *on the beach* with an Arab man that she is currently dating and I was actually encouraged, like - "okay so it isn't just me."  I must say I am proud of myself for not getting stuck in what's comfortable.  And with my plans to even further "internationalize" my career, I am even more pleased that I have simultaneously evolved into being comfortable with dating outside my race.   I am ready to open myself up to the relationships that the world has to offer me.